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Consider this:

One day an angel appears before you and gives you the following choices:

(A) - Another 30 years of a financially comfortable and healthy life followed by 3 years of poverty & poor health, then you die.


(B) - 30 years of poverty and poor health followed by 3 years of good health and riches, then you die.

Which would you choose? When I was first asked this question my first reaction was that it wasn't a very good one. What is going to stop you from choosing (A) then killing yourself at the end of the good 30 years? And in scenario B, 30 years of poor health & poverty would probably drive anyone to suicide.

I think the better way to look at this is to not label things as good or bad. Sure, no one would pick being sick and poor over rich and healthy, but that is not a sure indicator of happiness or inner peace. I look back on what could be considered 'bad' times in life and I feel like the experiences enriched my life.

Whether we get 700, 70 or 7 years of life, it's all the same in the end - we all get a single lifetime to live.  It consists of just the present moment, then we die.

Decades ago I was a baby, then a kid, then suddenly I was taking my exams, falling in love and getting married. Soon I'll be hitting 40. My nephew who is just turning 6 this year will experience the exact same thing. 

So in the end, (A) or (B) are irrelevant.

Presence and awareness in the moment is all that's required.

Which brings me to resolutions. I realized that my new years resolutions never worked because I used to be future-focused.  I would plan how to lose weight and when to start, but I always started tomorrow. And in any particular moment, I would always choose to overeat.  Now that I focus on the present moment more, the compulsions like food and internet addiction are easier to manage.  And that's why resolutions are useless to me, i have already resolved to the present moment.

Happy new year everyone ;)


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